Extroverted introverts, introverted extroverts, extroverts, introverts. Against their will, I’m going to shine the light on the introvert (oop, sorry guys!). I just think they are souls that deserve 2 minutes of our appreciation because they are reserved legends and you know it.
1. They are selective creatures
If you are friends with someone introverted, you can definitely take that as a compliment. Introverts are very selective with what they spend their time doing and who they spend their time with, so you better believe you are someone special. You’re not likely to find them surrounded by hordes of people they don’t know in social settings and if you do, they’re probably secretly thinking about curling up on the couch with their dog when they get home.
2. They respect you and your world
Everyone has their own life, right? What you do with yours is up to you. Introverts are very stay-in-your-own-lane kind of people. They find so much value in their time, therefore understand that others are allowed to feel the same about their own reality. The introvert can easily find themselves experiencing sensory overload in social settings so their worlds can get overwhelming pretty quickly. There's no need to mess around with that. It’s just an unspoken belief that your world is yours, just as our world is ours.
3. Drama is a big, fat, foul-smelling deterrent
There is nothing more off-putting than drama and people who love to create it. Just you watch that introverted soul run for the hills and mind their own business there instead. It gets far too overwhelming taking on the emotions of rudeness, shock, anger, sadness, uncertainty that comes with dealing with something that is a big old waste of time. Mate, we’d rather hide in a cave with our nose in a book instead. (Harry Potter and The Prisoner of Azkaban obviously......)
4. Words mean everything
If your actions match your words, you’re good. If they don’t, introverts will start to doubt. Why there is so much emphasis placed on someone’s word is intriguing. And many people may not find that easy to understand. But words really do mean everything! Perhaps it’s because introverts only say what they feel WHEN necessary, and when someone says things their actions don’t match up to it’s a bit foreign. It’s just a natural clash in human behaviour that we have to try to make peace with.
5. They bloody love their extrovert friends
They say opposites attract. We can make the most heartfelt connections with people who are different from us. And the fact we find something in common between our differences is pretty magical. Extroverts love people! And they can be a lot more helpful to introverts than we give them credit for. Like when you’re at that party and one comes up to you and makes an effort to get to know you. Or you're in a group and someone recognises that they perhaps talked over you or diverted the conversation back around on to themselves (so uncomfortable), but then they rectify their mistake to let you have your turn again. Little thoughtful gestures like that are very highly valued and so appreciated.
I have both introvert and extrovert friends who I adore! I do see myself having both qualities to my personality but believe my genetic makeup is more in tune with the introvert. Do you want to share your story? Slide it into my DM'S at @theeditbycaylie